How to Work with Me
This work is for you if:
✓ You have built a life that looks impressive but feels hollow
✓ You are exhausted from performing for invisible standards
✓ You are navigating a major transition (career change, life stage, organisational change) and old rules do not fit anymore
✓ You make decisions based on guilt and should rather than what actually serves you
✓ You are tired of chronic anxiety that will not respond to typical approaches
✓ You want to stop living on autopilot and start choosing consciously
Common situations that bring people here:
Career transitions where the old playbook stops working and you need to write your own
Life stage shifts (becoming a parent, midlife, empty nest, menopause) that expose rule conflicts you have been managing unconsciously
Organisational changes (mergers, acquisitions, leadership transitions) where cultural rules collide before anybody has named them
Recovery work (eating disorders, body image, relationship patterns) where diet culture and other systems have written vicious rules
High achievement without satisfaction where you are winning by external measures but losing yourself
Chronic anxiety or burnout that persists despite all the right interventions (because the rules themselves are the problem)
How we work together
Individual work
Therapy
Deep, sustained exploration of your unwritten rules - where they came from, how they have shaped you, what they are costing you, and comprehensive support in consciously choosing your path forward.
Best for: People ready for depth work, those with complex histories, anyone who needs a therapeutic container for identity-level shifts, recovery work that requires examining deeply embedded rules.
Coaching
Focused, strategic work to identify your operating rules and design your conscious path forward.
Best for: Life or career transitions, people who have done therapy before and want targeted intervention, those who need clarity and strategic plan more than processing.
Body Image: Group programme and workshops
Diet culture writes especially vicious rules. Let's examine them together and choose consciously what we keep. Specialised group programme and introductory workshops surfacing and shifting the unwritten rules that govern how we relate to our bodies.
Co-facilitated with marissa-catherine carrarini, Nutritional Therapist.
Group programmes and workshops
Organisational Work
What Are the Unwritten Rules in Our Team?
90-minute to half-day workshop surfacing the invisible cultural norms that shape behaviour, decision-making, psychological safety, and performance in your team or organisation. Make them visible. Examine them. Choose consciously which ones to keep.
Breaking the Rules Holding Me Back in My Career
Professional development workshop helping individuals identify and shift the unconscious rules limiting their advancement, leadership, and career satisfaction.
Breaking the Rules on Burnout
A wellbeing workshop supporting individuals to identify the unwritten rules that shape our behaviour and can lead to burnout. For example, 'I shouldn't need to ask for help' 'I must always say 'yes''.
Merger & Acquisitions Integration
Before cultural clash sabotages your merger: surface the unwritten rules in both organisations. Name them explicitly. Negotiate them consciously. Build shared norms rather than letting hidden rule conflicts create friction, confusion, and failed integration.
Because two organisations merging is literally two rule systems colliding. And nobody examines the unwritten rules.
Breaking the Rules Testimonials
Free Resources
I have a wealth of free downloads and resources available to support you in everything from managing difficult feelings to understanding and improving your relationship with exercise.
You can also find in-depth articles on my free Substack which explore topics such as identifying unhelpful rules, how to connect to the body, common fears around the restrict-binge-purge cycle as well as articles that have a feminist-political understanding to rule based behaviour & culture.
Over on Instagram, I share psycho-educational content and you can hear me reflect on unhelpful rules as I spot them in daily life. Follow me there for regular posts, collaborations and free resources, as well as the latest updates on upcoming webinars, group programmes and workshops.